Tying the knot is kind of a huge deal. Some people dream about it their entire lives and that build makes it a momentous occasion for them. It’s supposed to be this wonderful day where everyone you love is there to be happy with you as you join your soulmate in marriage.
We can’t control the weather, only ourselves
Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. Wanting a perfect wedding and having one are two completely different things. What you have to understand is that this is okay, but it’s not rare for people to find themselves paralyzed with all the thoughts of what can go wrong.
Listen, some things are simply out of your hands. All you need to do is control what you can. Proper planning and being smart will prevent the vast majority of issues that could arise. If you’re really the worrying type, set some ground rules for your wedding party.
Are you worried about people showing up too drunk day of? Ask them to call it in early the night before. Afraid people won’t show up? Ensure they get their invites and individually follow up. Planning for a natural disaster? Now, that’s just crazy because you can’t control the weather.
The closest you’ll get to controlling the weather is picking a location with a stable climate at a time of year that works for you. Once you accept that you’ll only control what you can, the planning can be far less stressful. So, let’s get into it.
Proper planning prevents poor wedding receptions
Once you’re over worrying about everything you can focus on what matters. The first step to making sure you don’t miss a thing is to get organized. People always talk about their wedding binders and for good reason. Those things will save you from having a breakdown.
Get one, make sure it’s good and put EVERYTHING in it. Write down the names of people you want to invite, jot down possible venues, keep an area for all the finance-related bits. The more thorough and organized you are now, the less of a headache you’ll have when it’s time to make things happen.
I’m sure you have a lifetime of ideas and a wonderful picture in your head, but remember that you’re only 50% of the couple. So when you’re going through ideas and making these plans, have them join in. Lean on them for support and ideas. Even if they say it doesn’t matter, it probably does and they’ll be glad you value what they think.
But that budget, tho
The hardest part for some couples is rationalizing that the Disney wedding they always dreamed of probably can’t happen. It’s about love. So, let it go unless you’re rich than do it up and have a ball. For the rest of us, staying within our budgets can be the difference between a great lead up and a super stressful one.
Budgeting isn’t difficult if you establish how much money you’re going to spend ahead of time and stick to it. This where those communication skills come in and the two of you get to work with that binder hashing out details and discussing costs.
Unless you’re the avant-garde type, a good chunk of your budget will go to the venue and this is okay. The backdrop is so important that wedding season is a thing and places get booked out way in advance of it. All so you can enjoy it and professionals like the people at Blue Bend Photography can capture those moments.
It’s not as hard as you think
If this came across sounding negative, that wasn’t the intent. Planning your wedding should be fun. It should be a blast. You, your fiance and the wedding party get to be part of something great, something that can be forever.
You’re planning a moment in time where everyone you love gets to be there for you. That’s about as beautiful as it get’s. That’s what really matters. Good luck.