How to be a boss at everything

Have you ever listened to someone talk and marveled at their eloquence and knowledge? Have you ever walked along the beach and had to look twice at the beautiful, perfectly-shaped people you saw? Have you ever admired the selflessness of a good care worker? The bravery of a firefighter? Or the genius of musicians, inventors and painters? Have you ever wanted to be more like them?

If you look at the people you know, there will be one or two of them who seem to be good at whatever they put their hand to. They can speak authoritatively on a variety of topics, they are fun to be around, they are physically fit, they make time for others, their finances are in order and they can be trusted. Conversely, there will possibly be one or two whose lives are quite the opposite. They betray their ignorance when they talk, are in poor health, act selfishly, can’t be trusted and always seem to have problems with money.

There are all kinds of different reasons for the different ways peoples’ lives turn out. Some people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths and seem to have all the advantages. Some are born into poverty and abuse. Some have psychological issues and others have physical disabilities. These factors can play a large part in how our lives turn out, but they are not as restrictive as many might think. There are a great many who are born with nothing and rise to the top, just as there are those who brought into the world wanting for nothing and yet, somehow, make a mess of it all. Compare the life of Abraham Lincoln with that of Robert Durst. Or Oprah Winfrey and the British lottery winner, Michael Carroll – who won the equivalent of $15 million and squandered it on drink, drugs and parties with celebrity gangsters and paramilitary figures, blowing it all and ending up living in a tent and working in a biscuit factory for $9 an hour.

There is one quality above all which separates people who experience a broad range of success in their lives from those with none, and that is self-discipline. Look at the way you live your life and compare it with the way you want to live. Do you imagine that Christopher Hitchens was born with the gift of eloquence or that Tom Cruise was born with a beach body? In fact, the late Mr. Hitchens was born into a naval family in the working-class English city of Portsmouth. His parents saved what they could to send him to a decent private school, and it was there that Hitchens acquired his cut-glass upper class English accent. From there on, it took years of practice in public and private debates to build up the skills and knowledge that he became celebrated for in his later years. Tom Cruise had to get over his diminutive stature, dental problems and general pasty and weak appearance before he became perhaps the most celebrated sex symbol of his time. This didn’t happen by chance. There were no guarantees of success, yet he changed his diet and stuck to it, pushed himself on a regular basis physically. Along with David Beckham, Cruise’s soccer legend pal, these two guys continue to work out and Cruise is into his fifties now. David Beckham’s discipline as a soccer player is legendary. Sir Alex Ferguson, the most successful coach in English football said he had never known anyone as disciplined in training and that’s what separated Beckham from the crowd.

If you’re guilty of dreaming of a life like these guys – bossing your field, and yet you do nothing about it, you’ll live your life as a dreamer. Go to now and decide which personal trainer you are going to use to start changing your dreams into reality. Then start studying for a higher qualification in something you’re interested in. Sharpen your oratory skills by speaking and debating publicly about it. With self-discipline and time, you could become as physically desired as Tom Cruise and David Beckham with the sharp wit and eloquence of Christopher Hitchens all rolled up into one person. Now, that’s a boss.